Tuesday, December 4, 2012

*BDSM SPECIAL* Tuesday's Teaser


**** B.D.S.M. SPECIAL****
 
Kasi Alexander
    Welcome to Tuesday's Teaser. Today I am forgoing the teaser spot, to sit down with an AMAZING author and Slave, Kasi Alexander. Yes, folks, you read that correctly. Kasi is a BDSM SLAVE! She lives the lifestyle and has agreed to sit down with me to answer some personal questions on what it's like to live as a slave. So sit back and enjoy.
     Kasi Alexander lives in the Denver area in a full-time polyamorous Master/Slave triad. She has a degree in English literature and linguistics and is passionate about the craft of writing as well as educating the public about the alternative lifestyles she lives. She worked in the nonprofit industry for many years until her last employer discovered that she was publishing books on polyamory and let her go. It was a blessing in disguise, as that opportunity has allowed her to concentrate on her writing full time for the past year. You can find Kasi’s books through Omnific Publishing (www.omnificpublishing.com).
     Her Keyhole Series (with Reggie Alexander) consists of two novels (Becoming sage and Saving sunni) and two short stories (It’s Only Kinky the First Time and Learning the Ropes). The series chronicle the story of Master Rune and his slaves Sage and Sunni as they explore polyamory, BDSM and power exchange. Kasi is devoted to her Great Dane, her motorcycle, disc golf and chili pizza. When she’s not writing, you can often find her at conferences around the country presenting on a variety of topics as well as selling chainmail jewelry and clothing from her family’s business, Poly’s Pleasures Chainmail.
 
How did you find your Master?
I knew I wanted to be polyamorous, so I went on Poly Matchmaker to look for partners and met Reggie and his wife. We started dating and decided to check out the local BDSM community, which none of us had been involved with before. He and I were both very intrigued by the Master/slave dynamic, so we decided to give it a try.
What led you to the lifestyle?
Interestingly, my ex-husband once admitted to me that he had been involved in a BDSM online chat room for about a year. (That’s not the reason he’s my ex, though.) I was intrigued and started reading about it. He wouldn’t actually go to a local club and try it out in person, and we were both submissive, so nothing happened until a few years later when I found myself single and exploring the idea of becoming polyamorous.
What's it like being a slave?
Well, it’s usually either really great or really frustrating. It takes a lot of work and huge amounts of communication and negotiation. But it raises the intensity of your relationship so much that the connection, when it’s good, is better than just about anything else on earth.
Do you live the lifestyle 24/7 or is it only during sex?
We try to maintain the structure of our relationship 24/7. Of course life and family commitments get in the way sometimes, and it’s not always possible to maintain a strong, conscious connection. But we have little rituals that we do to keep ourselves in M/s headspace as much as we can.
What does your friends & family think of your choice to be a "slave"?
I consider it a fairly private matter. My family knows I’m polyamorous (although they choose to ignore it for the most part) but I don’t talk to them about BDSM. I was laid off from my last job for writing alternative romance so now most of my friends are either in the lifestyle as well or in the romance publishing world and so understand or at least accept it.
Is the sex as good as we read?
It certainly can be! The enhanced connection you get from a power exchange relationship can do wonders for the intensity of the sex. And there are so many new ways to do foreplay! It doesn’t all have to be painful. There is actually more of an emphasis on pleasure than pain in BDSM!
What do you love the most about being in a BDSM Relationship?
Two things: the structure and the connection. I love knowing my place and exactly what’s expected of me. It’s like having a job that you really enjoy. You get a huge sense of accomplishment, you know you’re valued and appreciated, you know you’re making a contribution to your partner’s life, and you’re forced to articulate what you want, which vastly increases your chances of getting it. And the connection you can get when you focus on each other to such a deep extent can be absolutely incredible. It’s a lot of work, but it’s all worthwhile when it’s done well.
How much of your life reflects in your writings?
A surprising amount, actually. And sometimes it’s the stories that reflect in life instead. I was writing about Sir Rune losing his job (Saving sunni) when I lost mine. We often find that the things we’re working through in our relationship end up in our stories. Becoming sage actually chronicled very well the emotions and thought processes of entering into a polyamorous relationship, at least for me. (The events in the story were all fictional, of course, but the emotions were very real.) I think writing is best when it includes our own thoughts and questions about life. Then it makes the reader see their own life in a slightly different light, and that’s what makes books worth reading!
You can purchase Kasi Alexander's Books here!
 
With a failed marriage behind her, Jill Marten was looking to start a new chapter in her life. She had no idea that running into her old friend, Jessie, would unlock a whole new world. When she accepts Jessie's invitation to a party, in order to "try something completely different," it awakens a need to discover her place in a new community. Jessie, also known as sunni, is a submissive slave who is in a loving relationship with her Master, Sir Rune. When Rune and sunni ask Jill to be a part of their family, Jill begins her journey into submission, bondage, and polyamory, even as she questions everything that she has been taught about love and relationships. She begins to face her own desires and fears as she struggles with feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, and self-worth. Once she opens the door to a life she never imagined, a peek through the keyhole is no longer enough, and she must learn what it means to become sage. Kasi Alexander's debut novel, Becoming sage, is the first installment in The Keyhole Series. An active member of the BDSM community, Kasi brings a true-to-life realism to her writing. This is not traditional erotica, but the series offers an intimate look into the lives of the men and women who live the BDSM lifestyle, in particular, the Master/slave dynamic.
 
 
 
Compared to the rest of her poly family, Jessie Chambers-"sunni" to the local BDSM community-needs to grow up. While her serious sister slave, sage, struggles through college, their master, Sir Rune, insists that sunni needs a job. sunni finds a position at the local goth/kink store, The Fringe Element, and is immediately embraced by its quirky owner. Things start to get complicated when sunni's ex tracks her down, claiming he's found God wants to be together again, and a video of sunni and Sir Rune doing a dramatic scene at the Keyhole ends up on television. sunni must find a way to restore her relationships, keep her master from being deported, take over running the store, and stop everyone else from trying to "save sunni."
 
 
Well Folks...that's all for today!
Till next time, KEEP READING!
Rebecca Joyce

1 comment:

  1. Thanks so much for having us on your blog this week, Rebecca! We're always happy to answer any questions about the lifestyle or about us. You have a great blog!!
    Kasi

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